My colleague, Rhonda Neely, is an author and founder of Marriage By Re-design. She educates committed couples who are no longer as connected as they once were. Her work parallels mine in helping couples reignite intimacy after they have fallen “out of synch”. Read on for Rhonda’s thoughts on factors that can dissolve even the most solid marriages. - Rabbi Ed
5 Surefire Ways to Destroy Your Marriage, by Rhonda Neely
Today, I’m going to talk about common actions that can surely mess up a marriage. Knowing what not to do can provide as much information or insight as what to do.
You’ve probably made some of these mistakes already and if not, it’s probably just a matter of time. These are 5 surefire ways to destroy your marriage and I highly recommend you avoid doing these so that you can have a marriage of peace and happiness.
1. Care more about yourself and your own needs over your spouses.
If you think marriage is about how much your spouse can do for you, you will find yourself a very lonely person. Your spouse is married to you because of the way you make him or her feel. When you remove that behavior and start focusing on yourself and your needs more than how you make your spouse feel, you’re doomed.
2. Point out all the things your spouse does wrong (wrong in your opinion, that is).
When your spouse feels like everything he or she does isn’t good enough, what’s going to happen? They will stop trying! The more they feel like a failure to you, you are pushing him or her right to the next person that will make them feel good about themselves.